The Cinderella Complex

It certainly gives a unique perspective. As a guy, I obviously have problems truly identifying with what she is saying, but I certainly have encountered women in my life who fit this mold. Some of my girlfriends have had the same kind of dichotomous actions that would represent these ideas. One day, when things are going well, going out of her way to assert her independence and how strong she is. But on the next day, when things go horribly wrong, it is not the job of the guy to support her in her decisions and actions in how to overcome the problem for herself, but having to solve it FOR her instead. I guess from my perspective, for the guy, being taught that you have to save all the women is kind of a burden all on its own. Because the fiction that any one being can truly "save" and provide happiness to another is naturally flawed, as one can only provide that for themselves, and any partner can only support and attempt to nurture those feelings of positive self-confidence in their opposite. So the guy that is taught that he must provide everything for a girl is as much set up for the failure as the girl who thinks he can actually provide it.